Every time something negative happens, I can feel the clouds gather in my mind's eye. I then know, it's time to focus on the ray of sun, however faint it may seem. I strive to get ahead of the impending darkness that is about to cast its shadows on my feeble mindset.
The thunderstorm mindset is there to warn me (see positive-negative asymmetry) and I am also grateful for its presence.
I'm struggling at times, but the stubborn parts of my personality help to keep to a habit. This habit is one of continual reflection. An understanding, that I am not my mind. I choose to hear the stories in my mind. Feel thankful that it works, yet I will not yield to it consuming me.
Then, I remind myself of the positive, in order to counter what is perceived as unpleasant or unwelcome.
“Bad things are actually good things for awakening! But the best thing is to be awakened before the bad things happen!”― Mehmet Murat ildan
“I’m thankful for my struggle because without it I wouldn’t have stumbled across my strength.”-Anonymous
The antidote against being consumed by things not going your way is embracing all the things you feel joyous about.
Living with Gratitude
We may not write it in a daily journal entry. I do, however, feel my heart leap as I hear the door open when someone comes home.
You remember the little victory dance you do when things go so right? It is your way of giving thanks. I may not have said anything, but I feel the tingling joy in my chest, jiving to my favorite song.
I can hardly hide the grin on my face, receiving a hug from a long time friend.
My taste buds rejoice as expected when enticed by the pistachio ice cream, lasagna, double-decker, bacon, and avocado burger. (insert whatever your favorites are over here).
My body functions on cue and to date, my complaints are few. Although I don't always treat it as the temple it deserves.
“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.”—JFK
When you are seeing the thunder clouds gather, remind yourself to center on your body. It will not lead you astray. Reflect on those times when you could not contain your smile. Embrace the flutter of your heart as you observe someone you love. Become aware of the slight tingling in your chest. No, not the one as a result of heartburn after the double-decker bacon burger. Although, give thanks for that as well. I'm talking about the one due to the energy freed from pure joy.
“I feel a very unusual sensation—if it is not indigestion, I think it must be gratitude.”—Benjamin Disraeli
Being present in those moments and repetitively recalling them, should help you see the ray of sun amongst the clouds. It is called gratitude.
“I will forever remain humble because I know I could have less. I will always be grateful because I know I’ve had less.”—Anonymous